Mr. Hilden's Dream Castle
(from LINDA'S CHILDHOOD)
written in the late 1970s
Dearly Beloved,
How many of you have secretly longed to get away from it all? In fantasy you have even packed your bag, or was it just a red bandana on a stick that carried your toothbrush and one change of clothes? My sister, Anita, confesses she has sometimes thought of escaping to the deep woods of Drummond Island. In fact, she has at present a log cabin under construction on her own Homestead Acres, near the site where she was born.
Countless thousands of people have deserted family and friends arriving at an unknown destination where they begin life all over again under an unknown psudonym. Do they experience the same mistakes and failures that dogged their footsteps in their former life? Unknown multitudes remain faithful at their posts suppressing the recurring dream of what might have been.
In my childhood I knew several colorful characters who lived a hermit-like life. Victor Hilden was not exactly what you would call a hermit. Like Edgar Guest he lived in a house by the side of the road. People speculated about his past, but he kept it all a deep secret. Not only was he a friend to man, but he especially loved all children. He bore a remarkable resemblance to that other friend of children, St. Nicholas: a shock of snow white hair, a handlebar mustache, pink cheeks and a jolly laugh.
Mr. Hilden lived in a shack with no floor and only one room. During the winter the chickens lived inside with him and his horse, John, had an adjoining stable. You can well imagine what a fascinating place this was for the children who visited him! He would take them on a tour of a castle he was building in the woods, his future home – a castle with turrets and balconies and tricky scaffolding that was fun for climbing.
On cold winter days we would sometimes stop at Mr. Hilden’s to warm our hands since we still had almost a half mile to walk home. There was a shortage of chairs and so we sat on his bunk built into the wall. Knowing we were hungry, he would offer us some of his pancakes. They were not like crepe suzettes, but thick and heavy and rather unappetizing. With the chickens and the the earthen floor, the housekeeping was not very sanitary but little children graciously overlook such trifles.
Mr. Hilden never did get to finish his dream castle. During his last illness, my brother stayed with him and was rewarded by becoming the sole owner of John, the way-back, farm horse. We children tried riding him, but John was lazy. He would deliberately walk under a tree to try to brush us off his back with the branches. I wasn’t fond of riding after that but my sister Lily became quite a horse – woman. She had a riding horse of her own during some of the years she lived in Detroit. My husband once had his own riding boots that he wore in parades and cavalry exercises as a student at Michigan State University, in the Reserved Officer Training Corps. It was fun having John take us for sleigh rides, but we didn’t have a fancy cutter on our sleigh like this one in the picture.
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I had no idea when I read this letter -- who "Edgar Guest" was. I looked into him a little bit and found out that he was, according to Representative Poetry Online, an (English) immigrant poet whose family settled in Detroit, Michigan before the turn of the century. His poetry volumes sold millions, partly, possibly because of his impressive use of a media strategy which now defines popular culture -- convergence.
Guest started as a police beat reporter with the Free Press, and by the time he had a "verse column", he also had a radio show and was publishing books. Talk about cross promotion.
His bio on RPO says:
"At his death on August 5, 1959, he was affectionately called "the poet of the people" because he wrote of everyday family lives with deep sentimentality...Academic anthologies usually omit his works, possibly because in them he unashamedly wears his heart on his sleave and leaves little room for multiple interpretations."
The poem that I know and recognize from Guest is one that dad used in his sermons at least enough times that its lodged in my memory:
It Couldn't Be Done
Somebody said that it couldn't be done
But he with a chuckle replied
That "maybe it couldn't," but he would be one
Who wouldn't say so till he tried.
So he buckled right in with the trace of a grin
On his face. If he worried he hid it.
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
That couldn't be done, and he did it!
Somebody scoffed: "Oh, you'll never do that;
At least no one ever has done it;"
But he took off his coat and he took off his hat
And the first thing we knew he'd begun it.
With a lift of his chin and a bit of a grin,
Without any doubting or quiddit,
He started to sing as he tackled the thing
That couldn't be done, and he did it.
There are thousands to tell you it cannot be done,
There are thousands to prophesy failure,
There are thousands to point out to you one by one,
The dangers that wait to assail you.
But just buckle in with a bit of a grin,
Just take off your coat and go to it;
Just start in to sing as you tackle the thing
That "cannot be done," and you'll do it.
Such a spirit of hard-working, perservering individualism is just the sort of thing that serves as the subtext of Grandpa Ed's life -- and his father Great grandfather's life in my mind. Those values are less the sort of thing that I associate with Grandmother's writing, but the way that guest sentimentalizes the work ethic (as well as his many other meditiations on the every-day, the quotidian and the mundane) seems much more definiteive of her oevre.
So then, imagine my surprise as the google surf poured enough evidence over me to convince me that -- in fact -- Edgar Guest did not actually live in "the house by the side of the road."
Sam Foss did.
Here's Foss' poem in its entirety:
HOUSE BY THE ROAD
“He was a friend to man, and lived In a house by the side of the road.”- Homer
There are hermit souls that live withdrawn
In the place of their self-content;
There are souls like stars, that dwell apart,
In a fellowless firmament; There are pioneer souls that blaze their paths
Where highways never ran
But let me live by the side of the road
And be a friend to man.
Let me live in a house by the side of the road,
Where the race of men go by
The men who are good and the men who are bad,
As good and as bad as I.
I would not sit in the scorner’s seat,
Or hurl the cynic’s ban
Let me live in a house by the side of the road
And be a friend to man.
I see from my house by the side of the road,
By the side of the highway of life,
The men who press with the ardor of hope,
The men who are faint with the strife.
But I turn not away from their smiles nor their tears,
Both parts of an infinite planLet me live in a house by the side of the road
And be a friend to man.
I know there are brook-gladdened meadows ahead
And mountains of wearisome height;
That the road passes on through the long afternoon And stretches away to the night.
But still I rejoice when the travelers rejoice.
And weep with the strangers that moan,
Nor live in my house by the side of the road
Like a man who dwells alone.
Let me live in my house by the side of the road
It’s here the race of men go by.
They are good, they are bad,
they are weak, they are strong,
Wise, foolish- so am I;
Then why should I sit in the scorner’s seat,
Or hurl the cynic’s ban?
Let me live in my house by the side of the road
And be a friend to man.
THE END.
According to a bio at the Homeless Poets' Cafe --
"BIO: A poet, journalist, and humorist, Sam Walter Foss is best known for his inspirational poem, The House By the Side of the Road. Sam was born into a rural New England farm family June 19, 1858. When Sam was four years old his mother died, and young Sam had to mature quickly and do his share of chores. He graduated from Portsmouth (New Hampshire) High School, and obtained a bachelor's degree from Brown University in 1882. As owner and editor of the Lynn, Massachsetts Saturday Union newspaper, Mr. Foss produced a humor column once a week. He became skilled at cranking out his popular homespun verse and his poetry was soon being published across the country. In 1891 moved to Boston where he wrote first for the Yankee Blade and later the Boston Globe.
It seems that Guest was cut from the same cloth as Foss -- took his career notes directly from the book of Foss' life. This is pure hunch, but I wonder if possibly Guest read poetry on his radio show -- and would have, of course, if he was reading poetry, read Foss' most beloved poem. Therefore cementing a popular misattribution of "House by the Side of the Road" to Guest.
Grandmother wasn't (by a long shot) the only person to misattribute this poem to Edgar Guest, there are many examples in just the first two pages of googling "house by the side of the road."
One of these misattributions is in a web biography of a Quaker pacifist / activist (who I also have not heard of -- despite my current involvement with the Quakers) Gene Knudsen Hoffman.
The following excerpt comes from the story of her life:
"According to Gene, one of the most memorable religious moments of her childhood was reciting Edgar Guest’s “Let Me Live in a House by the Side of the Road” during a family gathering at age twelve. When Gene finished her recitation, she noticed her father in tears. She says that this poem was to become a moral “compass” that influenced her to make her various homes into gathering places for those in need of sustenance, and for peace activists.
Another misattribution can be found in this newspaper column. Carolyn Gray Thornton starts her story like this:
"A poem by Edgar Guest has been in my mind this week. It begins with the phrase, "Let me live in a house by the side of the road and be a friend to man."
I think later in the poem the phrase ends with "and give a helping hand.""
On a librarian's (?) listserve -- there is another misattribution of this poem. The inquiry goes unanswered since 1995.
Mitch and Julie Myers of the Graystone Inn refer to their own home / business in an advertisement for their Inn -- in another example of the misattribution of this poem.
One ebay member paired Foss' poem with one of Guest's poem on a page of "Favorite Poems"
Home
Edgar Guest
IT takes a heap o' livin' in a house t' make it home,
A heap o' sun an' shadder, an' ye sometimes have t' roam
Afore ye really 'preciate the things ye lef' behind,
An' hunger fer 'em somehow, with 'em allus on yer mind.
It don't make any differunce how rich ye get t' be,
How much yer chairs an' tables cost, how great yer luxury;
It ain't home t' ye, though it be the palace of a king,
Until somehow yer soul is sort o' wrapped round everything.
Home ain't a place that gold can buy or get up in a minute;
Afore it's home there's got t' be a heap o' livin' in it;
Within the walls there's got t' be some babies born, and then
Right there ye've got t' bring 'em up t' women good, an' men;
And gradjerly as time goes on, ye find ye wouldn't part
With anything they ever used -- they've grown into yer heart:
The old high chairs, the playthings, too, the little shoes they wore
Ye hoard; an' if ye could ye'd keep the thumb-marks on the door.
Ye've got t' weep t' make it home, ye've got t' sit an' sigh
An' watch beside a loved one's bed, an' know that Death is nigh;
An' in the stillness o' the night t' see Death's angel come,
An' close the eyes o' her that smiled, an' leave her sweet voice dumb.
Fer these are scenes that grip the heart, an'when yer tears are dried,
Ye find the home is dearer than it was, an' sanctified;
An' tuggin' at ye always are the pleasant memories
O' her that was an' is no more -- ye can't escape from these.
Ye've got t' sing an' dance fer years, ye've got t' romp an' play,
An' learn t' love the things ye have by usin' 'em each day;
Even the roses 'round the porch must blossom year by year
Afore they 'come a part o' ye, suggestin' someone dear
Who used t' love 'em long ago, an' trained 'em jes t' run
The way they do, so's they would get the early mornin' sun;
Ye've got t' love each brick an' stone from cellar up t' dome:
It takes a heap o' livin' in a house t' make it home.
This tribute to another rustic, pragmatic oldtimer -- Gertrude Edna Lee Kirkwood Tapscott -- is another articulation of these nostalgic idealizations of neighborliness. Apparently Gertrude had so internalized both Foss' words and Guests -- that she used them to refer to herself as often (or more often) than her own words.
The poem, embracing humanism and neighborliness in a plain-spoken, sentimental tone hung in the homes of the emerging middle class in the form of a Buzza Print. George Buzza started a card-making company just after the turn of the century which eventually expanded into print-making. His wall hangings and cards gave popular play to sentimental poems like Foss & Guest.
oops -- so my point is:
Isn't it interesting that Grandmother casts the shadow of "House by the Side of the Road" over the house of Victor Hilden?
The story lurking beneath this letter, to me is Grandmother's own malaise around the pressures of public life and the public sphere. Certainly she embodied many of the ideals articulated by Foss, however, she explicitly speculates about the fantasy of ditching domesticity and familial ties in the first two paragraphs of this letter....
So the marriage of the mysterious former life of Victor Hilden in combination with his delightful and odd hospitality articulates a seam which (I assume / interpolate) Grandmother embraces. Her distant history in poverty on Drummond Island, though cast in the warmest of light in her writing, was a far cry from the elegant, educated Doctors wife that she had become. Both an escapee and a philanthropist, I see echoes of Victor Hilden echoing through much of Grandmother's life....
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